Thursday, May 13, 2010

MEN AND (WO)MEN: Part II

"lastly guys, dont explore other girls if you're already in deep exploration with another girl. you'll only be a heartbreaker."

Alamak! This one... I disagree. Girls, have you ever considered what are the different reasons? What if the brother is praying, and seeking God, and as best as he knows how, he is trying to find out who is the best sister in terms of character?

Of course, maybe there are other reasons. But I think we cannot have such a flat judgement of this without understanding the heart first and foremost.

In fact, about the point of heartbreaking, personally, I cannot stand it when a girl gives out mixed signals. We guys appreciate straightforward talk, given in true sincerity and honesty. Let your yes be yes, and your no, no! As Proverbs says, "An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips." Ladies, please respect men's feelings and don't waste their time + discourage them! That is just plain selfish.

I've seen so many girls who don't know how to say directly no... they're very nice, but do not know how to say it well. As a result, they leave the guy feeling cheated / played out. And for those who are direct, it seems to me that a lot of them are not sensitive. Why should this be so? Is this what Jesus wants?

I know of a few, a VERY few, sisters in church (I think only a couple of them) who, if a bro were to express interest in them but they're not interested, would say no in a caring way, and with the heart to help the bro be all he can be in Christ... such that the bro wld go away feeling even more refreshed and encouraged! Ironic? No! Not when you want to be a Christian. "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone." But it seems to me that we more often than not take that salt and rub it into people's wounds.

I am speaking from the viewpoint of discipleship here. Don't regard others from a worldly viewpoint anymore. See from the viewpoint of Christ, can or not? Or the world will see no difference between you and the non-Christian girl. (I think I raised this point before in a certain Facebook post.)

There's this dear friend who said that if a guy were to express interest in her, but she wasnt' interested, she would feel put off and avoid the guy. The thing is, she knows that this attitude isn't biblical. But she didn't think much about changing her attitude here. And she's a good sister (in character) some more!

So it made me think. How serious are you about being Christlike, even in the way you say no? How serious are you about letting the Word of God override your feelings? Ladies, you want men who are not emotionally unstable. Right. We men like women who are also emotionally stable and honour the Word of God above their feelings... in fact, who let the Word of God DRIVE their feelings.

I think, at the core of it all, this is no longer abt bros or sisters, male or female. It is simply about whether you want to be a disciple or not. Think about it. Because ultimately, even in our relationships - or our rejection of relationships, we are called to be Christlike. Because... we are all sons of God, regardless of our gender.

Galatians 3:26-29
"You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise."

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

MEN AND (WO)MEN: Part I

Came across a sister's blog. She wrote this:
there are 5 things i want to emphasize about:

1) i cannot over emphasize this, but i cant stand men who are ultra..
childish; passive; insecure; stubborn; calculative; impatient; attention seeking; MCP; prideful & playboy.
i hope women can stop giving in to such characteristics of men while thinking that they'll change one day. face it, if you keep giving in to such traits of theirs, they will never change.

2) i also cant stop emphasizing that biblical men should lead biblical women. if women always have to take lead in making decisions, setting biblical standards, etc, God would have made women first than the men. if you feel that you're not leading as a guy, please do sth and stop being passive. if you're a girl and your guy aint leading, please pray and fast whether he's the right one for you.

3) the opposite gender aint your property or person that you own alone. the universe is not just centred between both of you. open your r/s for friends, leaders and family to come in.

4) loving the strengths and admiring inner and outer beauty is important. but whats equally important is that you're accepting and embracing each others' weaknesses and shortcomings too. love aint a bed of roses nor a fairytale. we're all still human.

5) lastly guys, dont explore other girls if you're already in deep exploration with another girl. you'll only be a heartbreaker.

I was thinking abt what she wrote, and well, of course it's impt and helpful. All the pts are very true... esp pt 2. However, I think we gotta look at it from the Bigger Picture: that these pts apply as much to girls as much as guys... (excepting pt 2)... which means that these pts are actually gender-neutral then.

1. I gotta speak up for the bros too, man. It irritates me to see the bros being given short shrift everytime. Somehow the bros seem to have the raw end of the deal. Look, is it always the bros' fault tt they are childish, impatient, passive and insecure, etc. etc.?

Whoa! I see the look of shock on your face. I'll clarify: is it always anyone's fault here? I'll ask you: is the church a hotel for perfect people... or is it a redemptive "repair" facility for those who have come out from darkness into light? Is it the church's role to condemn those who are ignorant? It's the church's role to judge those who deliberately do evil - in that case, "expel the wicked man from among you". But what if we men genuinely do not know what we are doing? In that case, WHO WILL TEACH US?

I mean, when I came in, I really knew nuts abt social maturity, interacting with others, friendship, godliness and all that. I came in with pride and arrogance and immaturity. And I struggled with loneliness for many years, being a social outcast in church, trying to figure out what was wrong with me, and crying out to God for an answer. And the worst part was when a subd leader just wrote this "encouragement": "I hope to see you grow in your r/p with people." That was all he wrote, which, frankly, sucks. The church failed miserably here.

Screw it lah. Thank God for bros who did care. They taught me to see that the Bible calls us to be godly. To be men. To be courageous. And they taught me skills and knowledge and understanding. And most of all, there were a few, a very few truly wise brothers, who actually showed me real grace. THEN the church shone gloriously here. Now, I have the joy of being a shepherd after TEN years. And in turn, I see other bros who also struggle in lostness and ignorance. So, yes, I do carry on the work of teaching and making disciples. BUT THE QUESTION IS: I WANT TO ASK, WHY DID THEY HAVE TO WAIT SO LONG UNTIL SOMEONE CARED ENOUGH TO REALLY DISCIPLE THEM? "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge," God lamented to Hosea.

I rest my case. It is not always the brothers' fault. Or the sisters' fault. Yes, there are people who will not listen. But how about those who have not even gotten the chance to hear? Brothers and sisters, will YOU go and teach us what the Lord wants of us?

"i hope women can stop giving in to such characteristics of men while thinking that they'll change one day. face it, if you keep giving in to such traits of theirs, they will never change."

This one, yes, I agree. It's important. But... I also want to say that this applies to women too. Godliness and character are gender-neutral.

2. All the other points, yes and amen. Still, I want to say that all these apply to the sisters too. In fact, I think sisters are often in danger of being deceived by their emotions and false thinkings more easily than brothers. Remember 2 Cor 11:3 and 1 Tim 2:14! (Man, I am so going to get bombarded for this statement. But yes, correct me if you think I'm wrong or unbalanced. But I'm just speaking my mind here about what I think is true.)
Hi friends. Sorry for the sudden departure recently.

I was feeling discouraged by the lack of comments in my blog, to be very honest. I know a couple of you said that you enjoy reading my blog, so I'm thankful for it. Still, as one dear brother understood, "Actually, it's like you've been giving and giving but not getting anything in return."

So I've taken a personal retreat and have moved my blog elsewhere. If you still want to read, just drop me an email or SMS me or just leave a comment here - especially if you like what I write. Have told a few bros who asked me already. It's nice to know that they care enough to ask. =)

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Quantum mechanics, uncertainty principle and the relativity of truth?

this is a very long passage from Scientific American, but i think it's worth reading, because think in the next few decades, people will start using this as scientific proof that truth is RELATIVE. if even the very nature of physical reality as we know it is ever changing and uncertain, then what grounds for absolute truth? and if there is no grounds for absolute truth... you know the rest of the story.

so here goes.

Was Einstein Wrong?: A Quantum Threat to Special Relativity
Our intuition, going back forever, is that to move, say, a rock, one has to touch that rock, or touch a stick that touches the rock, or give an order that travels via vibrations through the air to the ear of a man with a stick that can then push the rock—or some such sequence. This intuition, more generally, is that things can only directly affect other things that are right next to them. If A affects B without being right next to it, then the effect in question must be indirect—the effect in question must be something that gets transmitted by means of a chain of events in which each event brings about the next one directly, in a manner that smoothly spans the distance from A to B. Every time we think we can come up with an exception to this intuition—say, flipping a switch that turns on city street lights (but then we realize that this happens through wires) or listening to a BBC radio broadcast (but then we realize that radio waves propagate through the air)—it turns out that we have not, in fact, thought of an exception. Not, that is, in our everyday experience of the world.

We term this intuition "locality."

Quantum mechanics has upended many an intuition, but none deeper than this one. And this particular upending carries with it a threat, as yet unresolved, to special relativity—a foundation stone of our 21st-century physics.

[...]

Let's back up a bit. Prior to the advent of quantum mechanics, and indeed back to the very beginnings of scientific investigations of nature, scholars believed that a complete description of the physical world could in principle be had by describing, one by one, each of the world's smallest and most elementary physical constituents. The full story of the world could be expressed as the sum of the constituents' stories.

Quantum mechanics violates this belief.

Real, measurable, physical features of collections of particles can, in a perfectly concrete way, exceed or elude or have nothing to do with the sum of the features of the individual particles. For example, according to quantum mechanics one can arrange a pair of particles so that they are precisely two feet apart and yet neither particle on its own has a definite position. Furthermore, the standard approach to understanding quantum physics, the so-called Copenhagen interpretation—proclaimed by the great Danish physicist Niels Bohr early last century and handed down from professor to student for generations—insists that it is not that we do not know the facts about the individual particles' exact locations; it is that there simply aren't any such facts. To ask after the position of a single particle would be as meaningless as, say, asking after the marital status of the number five. The problem is not epistemological (about what we know) but ontological (about what is).

[...]
Radical Revisions of Reality
Albert Einstein had any number of worries about quantum mechanics. The overquoted concern about its chanciness ("God does not play dice") was just one. But the only objection he formally articulated, the only one he bothered to write a paper on, concerned the oddity of quantum-mechanical entanglement. This objection lies at the heart of what is now known as the EPR argument, named after its three authors, Einstein and his colleagues Boris Podolsky and Nathan Rosen. In their 1935 paper "Can Quantum-Mechanical Description of Physical Reality Be Considered Complete?", they answer their own question with a tightly reasoned "no."

Their argument made pivotal use of one particular instruction in the quantum-mechanical recipe, or mathematical algorithm, for predicting the outcomes of experiments. Suppose that we measure the position of a particle that is quantum mechanically entangled with a second particle—so that neither individually has a precise position, as we mentioned above. Naturally, when we learn the outcome of the measurement, we change our description of the first particle because we now know where it was for a moment. But the algorithm also instructs us to alter our description of the second particle and to alter it instantaneously, no matter how far away it may be or what may lie between the two particles.

Entanglement was an uncontroversial fact of the picture of the world that quantum mechanics presented to physicists, but it was a fact whose implications no one prior to Einstein had thought much about. He saw in entanglement something not merely strange but dubious. It struck him as spooky. It seemed, in particular, nonlocal.

Nobody at that time was ready to entertain the possibility that there were genuine physical nonlocalities in the world—not Einstein, not Bohr, not anybody. Einstein, Podolsky and Rosen took it for granted in their paper that the apparent nonlocality of quantum mechanics must be apparent only, that it must be some kind of mathematical anomaly or notational infelicity or, at any rate, that it must be a disposable artifact of the algorithm—surely one could cook up quantum mechanics's predictions for experiments without needing any nonlocal steps.

And in their paper they presented an argument to the effect that if (as everybody supposed) no genuine physical nonlocality exists in the world and if the experimental predictions of quantum mechanics are correct, then quantum mechanics must leave aspects of the world out of its account. There must be parts of the world's story that it fails to mention.

Bohr responded to the EPR paper practically overnight. His feverishly composed letter of refutation engaged none of the paper's concrete scientific arguments but instead took issue—in an opaque and sometimes downright oracular fashion—with its use of the word "reality" and its definition of "elements of physical reality." He talked at length about the distinction between subject and object, about the conditions under which it makes sense to ask questions and about the nature of human language. What science needed, according to Bohr, was a "radical revision of our attitude as regards physical reality."

Bohr did go out of his way to agree with the EPR paper on one point: that of course there can be no question of a genuine physical nonlocality. The apparent nonlocality, he argued, was just one more reason why we must abandon the quaint and outdated aspiration, so manifest in the EPR paper, of being able to read from the equations of quantum mechanics a realistic picture of the world—a picture of what actually exists before us from moment to moment. Bohr insisted, in effect, that not only do we see the world through a glass darkly but that this shadowy and indefinite view is as real as anything gets.


I was reading this article on the phenomenon of non-locality as described by quantum mechanics, and a rather disturbing thought occurred to me. if the universe itself - physical reality as we see it and know it - is literally and visibily proven to be non-local... then perhaps God really did play dice with the universe, to contradict even Albert Einstein himself?

and if God really does play dice with the universe, then what hope do we who proclaim absolute truth have - that we have rested all our hopes onto an immovable and immutable Creator and Mover... only to find that our God is a chancy God? A God who takes chances with his creation?

what then, for absolute truth, and even for the very nature and foundation of logic - the law of non-contradiction?

if non-locality has been proved empirically visible, in short, then it must prove Hegel has prophesised true - that the thesis and the antithesis really did meet together in a synthesis.

in short - post-modernism has laid its feet upon absolute truth, not only metaphorically, but physically too.

in fact, one friend did think about this - i had brought him to Christ last time - but his studying of quantum physics led him to pretty much the same disturbing conclusion. and as a result, he stopped believing in God, and turned back to atheism.

now, allow me to present an apologetic for the existence of absolute truth, even in a world that is itself physically uncertain, where the uncertainty principle holds sway.

first, i want to debunk the notion that the physical world and its uncertainty must necessarily determines the foundation of truth. just because the uncertainty principle exists and is true for the physical world and its dimensions as we humans can perceive it, doesn't mean that it must therefore apply to the very nature of truth itself.

for truth is far more than jus what is seen. in fact, the Scriptures say that we know that the world was not made out of what is seen. "...we understand that the universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible." dark matter, space-time expansion, DNA, information theory and all these wonders of nature are simply declaring the glory of God.

"the heavens declare the glory of God
the skies proclaim the works of his hands
day after day they pour forth speech
night after night they display knowledge..."

in fact, did you realise the uncertainty principle is itself very certain. and in order to prove the uncertainty principle, Heisenberg, Bohr and other quantum physicists had to use a most-decidedly antithetical line of reasoning in order to prove the certainty of the uncertainty principle. so much then for Hegel and his gang of post-modernists. synthesis FAIL.

(disclaimer: now, pls don't hammer me on my overuse of the uncertainty principle as an example. i'm just using it as an illustrative (and convenient) shorthand... so forgive me for oversimplifying my arguments... :P)

so then, let's be careful in our interpretations and what certain half-informed pple may have said about what they _think_ they understand about quantum mechanics and uncertainty and all that... Whatever the non-locality principle says - one thing it does NOT say is that a fact is uncertain, and therefore relative.

else we risk falling into Sokal's trap.
1 Corinthians 3:19b
"He catches the wise in their craftiness"


it simply means that the fact doesn't exist in the first place. like asking what's the marital status of 5. or what a square circle looks like. thus the same applies for the position of a single particle.

it simply means that we can never know the world fully. we can't even predict with absolute certainty. all it does show us is our helplessness and ignorance.

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now, i'll move into the reams and realms of Scriptures. the next section is for Christians.

Firstly, i'm thinking then. why did God create the uncertainty principle in the first place? To that, I think God will simply ask us the same questions as He asked Job thousands of years ago in Job 38:
"Who is this that darkens my counsel
with words without knowledge?

3 Brace yourself like a man;
I will question you,
and you shall answer me.

4 "Where were you when I laid the earth's foundation?
Tell me, if you understand.

5 Who marked off its dimensions? Surely you know!
Who stretched a measuring line across it?

6 On what were its footings set,
or who laid its cornerstone-

7 while the morning stars sang together
and all the angels shouted for joy?"
only the immeasurable God is able to fully measure an immeasurable universe. only the Absolute One is capable of fixing both the position and velocity of a single particle perfectly. think about it. if we can't even measure a single particle perfectly... nor can we predict the motions of a trillion stars in a trillion galaxies... =)

and to borrow Bohr's insistence that we can only see the world as "through a glass darkly", and that this shadow world is as real as it gets...

absolutely so. for the Scriptures say in the epistle of Hebrews that this present world is only a shadow of the good things that are to come.

and to describe it more visually... i'll paraphrase CS Lewis from his Narnia book, "The Last Battle". In that book, the Narnian boy-king fought to the very bitter end, when he fell into the wooden shed, and suddenly, got transported into another land.

and he was so surprised to find that this land seemed so familiar. and yet so different.

and that the colours were more real than anything he'd ever seen.

then one of the Narnians (i think it was an eagle) flew up into the sky, and reported back - this IS Narnia. the new Narnia. the old Narnia is no more, and the new Narnia has come.

and to cut a (beautiful) story short, CS Lewis described this new Narnia as an allegory of the real world that is to come. for this current world, is but a fallen shadow of the world that was, and is meant to be.

the physical realities that we see right now, are only a shadow of the good things that are yet to come. heaven isn't a big cloud... it's a place far more real, more brilliant, more glorious, more wonderful than anything we can ever imagine on earth.

we don't become ethereal forms floating around. no, scripture declares that we will have brand-new physical bodies... (i reckon it'll look the same as now - except a whole lot better haha.) "for the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality..." after all, Christ was physically resurrected. not metaphorically!

Secondly, I think God wants us to remember that this current heavens and earth is already so uncertain. thus, quantum mechanics simply testifies that this physical world that looks so certain is absolutely uncertain. (yes, i meant that to be an oxymoron.) He wants us to not place our faith in uncertain things, but only in His Word that is certain and true.

"Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away."
"Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe..."

but i must clarify - i don't mean that we should go the way of Kierkegaard and make a leap into the unknown. that's just S-T-U-P-I-D.

'cos the world is not totally random. correct? our senses, though not perfect, are a reasonable witness to reality. "Touch and see... stop doubting and believe," Jesus told Thomas.

i tink this is reasonable common-sense. physical realities are meant to be a pointer to the Great I AM.

So put your hope in the Lord, both now and forever, for He is the eternal unchanging God, the Tower of Refuge, the Way and the Truth and the Life - the One who speaks with utter confidence, "I AM WHO I AM." in a universe that is shakily uncertain.